Why It's Okay to Seek help after you’ve had a baby - Geelong Counselling & Therapy
For many individuals, the perinatal period—encompassing pregnancy and the first year postpartum—can be a time of immense emotional upheaval. While the focus is often on maternal mental health during this time, the need for support doesn't magically disappear once the baby reaches their first birthday. In fact, it's perfectly okay, and often necessary, to seek support for mental health challenges beyond the perinatal period.
The perinatal period is marked by hormonal fluctuations, sleep deprivation, lifestyle changes, and the immense responsibility of caring for a newborn. It's no wonder that many parents experience feelings of overwhelm, anxiety, and even depression during this time. However, what is less commonly discussed is that these challenges can persist long after the baby's first year.
One reason why individuals may hesitate to seek support for mental health issues after the perinatal period is the societal expectation that they should have "bounced back" by then. There's a pervasive myth that once a woman has given birth, any struggles she faces should be overshadowed by the joy of motherhood. Similarly, fathers may feel pressure to prioritise providing for their family over their own mental well-being.
However, mental health challenges do not adhere to a timeline. Just because the perinatal period has passed doesn't mean that a parent's struggles magically disappear. Postnatal depression and anxiety, for example, can manifest at any point during the first year postpartum or even beyond. Additionally, the demands of parenting—juggling work, childcare, household responsibilities, and personal relationships—can continue to take a toll on one's mental health long after the baby has grown out of infancy.
Seeking support for mental health issues is not a sign of weakness; it's a courageous step towards healing and self-care. Whether it's therapy, support groups, or simply reaching out to loved ones for help, there are numerous resources available for parents struggling with their mental health. Just as we wouldn't hesitate to seek medical treatment for a physical ailment, we shouldn't hesitate to seek help for our mental well-being.
Moreover, prioritising mental health isn't just important for the individual—it's crucial for the entire family. A parent who takes care of their mental health is better equipped to provide love, support, and stability for their children. By modelling self-care and resilience, parents can instil valuable life skills in their children and break the cycle of stigma surrounding mental health.
It's also worth noting that seeking support for mental health issues is not a one-time event. Mental health is a journey, and there may be times when we need more support than others. Just as our physical health fluctuates, so too does our mental health. Learning to recognize when we need help and having the courage to ask for it is an essential part of self-care.
In conclusion, it's okay—more than okay—to seek support for mental health issues beyond the perinatal period. Parenthood is a journey filled with ups and downs, and it's essential to prioritise our mental well-being every step of the way. By breaking the silence and stigma surrounding postpartum mental health and advocating for ongoing support, we can create a world where all parents feel empowered to seek the help they need without shame or judgement.