Why am I fighting with my partner so much after we had a baby? - Couples Therapy Geelong

One of the most significant challenges new parents face is navigating the impact of stress on their relationship following the birth of their baby. Relationship experts Dr John and Julie Gottman have extensively researched the effects having a baby can have on the couple. The research highlighted that 67% of couples a decline in relationship satisfaction during the first three years of their baby’s life. The arrival of a baby can strain even the strongest of partnerships. Some of the factors that can influence relationships include but not exclusive to:

• Sleep Deprivation: Babies often disrupt sleep patterns, leaving parents feeling exhausted and irritable. When we are exhausted, we understandably don’t operate at our best, communication can be impacted as can our stress response systems.

• Division of Labor: Balancing childcare responsibilities, household chores, and work can lead to feelings of resentment and imbalance.

• Communication Challenges: With the demands of parenthood, couples may struggle to find time to communicate effectively and address issues as they arise. Conflicts during the first year of baby's life increase significantly.

• Changes in Intimacy: The physical and emotional demands of caring for a newborn can impact intimacy and leave couples feeling disconnected. Women often report a considerable reduction in desire for sexual intimacy, especially if they are breastfeeding.

• Change in goals and values: the birth of a baby can see mothers and fathers re-evaluating what is important and what they want to invest their time into.

Whilst the birth of a baby is wonderful, it is not without its challenges, it brings about a big shift for individuals and the couple. If you are experiencing challenges know that you are not alone and whilst quite common it may be helpful to seek some help from a professional to navigate. Reach out to Nurture Geelong today if you would like more information on accessing couples therapy and navigating parenthood together.